Do you really need to tell your partner everything? Cheating among individuals struggling with recovery from addiction may have an evolutionary basis

 

Cheating is biological and evolutionary as well as cultural

Cheating may have an evolutionary basis but it definitely hurts.

Exploring the evolutionary basis for cheating and other dishonest behaviors can help us understand why they happen.

The Three “A’s” addiction, affairs, and abuse have long been considered by addiction treatment therapists to be adequate reasons to leave one’s partner. But some cheating and dishonesty certainly falls outside of the clinical range and  for all intents and purposes should probably be nothing to worry about. So, that leaves us wondering: How important is it to tell our partners everything?

 Many scientists view cheating behavior as connected to vestiges of evolutionary differences between men and women.  As natural selection prioritizes behaviors designed to spread one’s genes, men may focus on propagating their genes in a quantity way. Due to the fact that women  have longer gestation and nursing responsibilities they benefit from finding a more quality caliber mate. 

No one  wants their mate to cheat because a mate who cheats may have more babies which means that mate is less likely to care for the original partner’s children.  All  behavior that results in propagating one’s genes is powerfully reinforced. Infidelity therefore, through the processes of natural selection  can become more prevalent over time. So too can all sorts of lesser indiscretions like white lies, concealing minor expenses, flirting behavior, masturbation, pornography and that vente mocha java chip latte.

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